I was a 45 year old heterosexual woman, divorced w/children, when I met Jack and fell in love. Seven years into our relationship, he confided his secret desire–Jack wanted to be a woman. Before his disclosure, I had no reason to suspect his interest. It was a shocking surprise! It was the decade of the 1990’s. Little information was available to help ME understand ‘Why’ and ‘What next”. Not only was Jack in transition, but by virtue of the circumstance, so was I. Guided by my heart, I began a journey of my own. Stepping out of my comfort zone I challenged my attitudes and belief systems, as well as, my own sexual orientation to help me decide ‘Do I stay, or do I go”? I decided to write a book about it with the hope that I might help others understand the phenomena, and also, not to feel that they are alone as they take their own journey.