“I have no one I can talk to. I cannot tell friends or family. They won’t understand.”

You Question What Now? What’s Next? maybe even, Why Me?

When you first learn of your husband or boyfriend’s desire to become female, you may not have had any idea at all that he felt this way. If your experience is at all like mine, you initially feel betrayed, confused, and angry. You are downright scared to death for what it all means to your relationship.

For me, I knew no one in my family or social circle would understand. There was no one I felt I could talk to. I began to try to reach out for information and education, for books, counselors, anyone who could explain it to me.

I am available to answer your questions. Feel free to ask. Please see the “where did you find support topic for other resources”. If you cannot get on the blog to post a question or comment, e-mail me. I answer all questions. Know, that you are not alone. Reach out. #SO, #significant_other, #husband, #boyfriend, #Trans, #Transsexual, #M2F, #F2M, #LGBT, #support+wife, #No+one+to+talk+to #TeenTrans #friends #family #communication #betrayal #confusion #adjustmentdisorientation

10 thoughts on ““I have no one I can talk to. I cannot tell friends or family. They won’t understand.”

  1. I felt like I had been run over by a truck. More than surprised, I was in shock. Friends and family were not gay, some where not even gay-tolerant because of religious and personal views. I realized I wouldn't be able to talk to them, or anyone I knew about the subject. I would have to find answers to my questions on my own. Even living in a City that embraced the LGBT community, my exposure to M2F TS was waiting for a light at the corner on Polk and California Street on a dark night on the way to the Lumiere Theater. "Big hair and lots of make-up, dressed in woman's clothes." I viewed such persons with curiosity. But not with understanding. Was this J's vision for self? How could it be? What was driving him to want to do such a thing? It was mind-bending, inexplicable. Any answers to my questions, I would have to search out on my own. This subject was still "taboo" and "behind closed doors" — Searching for answers without support was an arduous, lonely, and isolating experience. If you are finding your lover, your friend, a family member is planning TS transition, and you don't understand, don't have support, or know where to find answers, please ask questions. I am willing to share my experience. I believe it is through information and education that we can develop understanding and acceptance.

  2. Very good blog you have here but I was wondering if you knew of any user discussion forums that cover the same topics talked about here? I’d really love to be a part of group where I can get responses from other experienced individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Many thanks!

  3. I know this website offers quality dependent articles or reviews and other material, is there any other
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    1. Hi geriurbina – I don’t know. I gleaned my information after scouring the internet, but I am sure there must be more info out there. I would also direct you to doing a YouTube search if you haven’t and see what you might find there. I also have done a couple of YouTube podcasts. You might check out both Scott Calhoun’s The Inner Typewriter where I talk about what I did in writing the book and also Creative Happy Hour Podcasts, Creative Conversations with Diana Kelly, Author. you might find them interesting. Please leave a review and subscribe if you can. The hosts love it if you do. Thanks! D

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